Head of School Blog

Hello! I'm Laurie Wolke and thank you for visiting my blog! Whether this is your first time reading it or you're a frequent visitor, I hope you'll enjoy the ideas, articles, and thoughts I have to share about educating children and raising them to be kind, confident, and life-long learners. I hope you will find some of these posts useful for you - wherever you are in your journey. Please visit often.

Laurie Wolke
Head of School

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Global Education, Curiosity & Character

By: Laurie Wolke

At Laurence, our Global Garden Educational Program has long been a celebrated aspect of our curriculum. One of my favorite aspects of the program is its emphasis on inspiring curiosity in our students – a key trait for developing a love of learning. Students explore the wonders of the world around them right here in America, as well as in foreign countries where their sister schools are located. The Global Program is also a vehicle to teach students the values embedded in our Character Education Program, which include kindness, empathy, and respecting different points of view. Conversations through emails, letters, videos, and Skype give our students a chance to ask students in Mexico, Africa, China, and Europe: What does kindness look like to you?

In our recent Global Garden Newsletter, Eric Hogenson, Director of Grades 3 – 6 & STEAM Innovation, K-6, wrote an eloquent piece about the intersection of the Global Program and this year's character education theme, "Follow Your Inner Compass." I am so proud of his work and I wanted to share it here with my blog readers.

Click here to read his article.
Expanding Our "Circle of Concern" to Build Empathy
By Laurie Wolke

At Laurence, we celebrated Random Acts of Kindness Week with special activities designed to help students focus on the many ways to be kind. While we put additional emphasis on kindness this week as part of this national movement, we celebrate and promote kindness every day through our Character Education Program. Just ask our students about how they "Keep Kind in Mind!"

This past fall, Harvard Professor and psychologist Richard Weissbourd, co-director of the Making Caring Common Project, spoke to our parents about raising kind and caring children. One key take-away that has been particularly inspiring to me is the concept of expanding our students' (and our own) "Circle of Concern." He explained that children tend to be naturally empathetic toward their own friends and parents, but they need to learn how to develop empathy for people outside their "circle" – empathy for a waiter, their school bus driver, and people of different backgrounds.

We do a lot here at Laurence to help kids develop this type of empathy through our Global Education Program, service learning activities, and daily classroom discussions. I came across an article on the Random Acts of Kindness Foundation's blog that I thought was especially helpful in giving you, our parents, some concrete ideas for what you can do at home to expand your chrildren's "Circle of Concern." The article also points to great resources from our all-things-media-partner, Common Sense Media.

Click here to read "5 Ways to Help Children Care More."

Holiday Cheer, Holiday Perspective

By Laurie Wolke

With winter break just around the corner, I think back on years when my children were small and winter break was a time for all of us to slow down and be together. I am filled with all of the warm memories we created during those years, as I anticipate, with excitement, making new memories with my children.

But it is also easy to idealize this time of year, placing overly high expectations on ourselves to make the holidays perfect. We also tend to transfer those expectations onto our children, who are bound to spill chocolate on their impeccably selected outfits or become tired and cranky from the change in routine and whirlwind of events and visiting relatives.Children also absorb the stress of the adults around them.

So this is an important time of year for perspective and practicing some of the mindfulness techniques our Laurence students have been learning. Remind them to do their belly breathing when tensions get too high, and while you're at it, remind yourself! Take a short walk together when the house feels hectic. And remember that what is most important to your children is the time you spend with them and the traditions you create for them – those are the building blocks of warm memories that they will cherish for many years beyond this season's batch of toys.

For suggestions about how to make lasting memories, you might want to take a look at a recent article from The Washington Post's "On Parenting" column, "What children need even more than presents this holiday season."

Here's to making lasting memories this December!

Kindness vs. Achievement and Happiness

By Laurie Wolke

The 2016-2017 school year at Laurence is progressing beautifully and it brings me such joy to see how our Character Education program is unfolding. This year's "Keep Kind in Mind" sequel, "Follow Your Inner Compass," is reinforcing last year's lessons and taking them to a deeper level.

One of the most important tenets of our theme is encouraging our students to value being kind and good person as a measure of success in addition to valuing achievement and happiness.

Last year, Parent Education speaker, Dr. Robin Berman, talked about the importance of focusing on kindness rather than happiness, reinforcing the concept behind our "Keep Kind in Mind" theme. And this fall, Professor Richard Weissbourd, our kick-off speaker for 2016-2017, spoke to parents about the importance of being deliberate and intentional about helping children develop a moral sense in the same way they are deliberate and intentional about teaching them to achieve and be happy.

Here at Laurence, we are very deliberate and intentional about everything in our curriculum, and our Character Education program is no exception. From a multitude of service learning projects to our "Compass of Choice" conflict resolution guides, to our gratitude journals and morning class meetings, we make learning to be a good and kind human being a part of the daily learning process.

A fascinating takeaway from Professor Weissbourd's talk was the result of one of his studies in which he asked students to rank what they thought was most important to their parents: achievement, happiness or caring. Fifty percent of the students answered that they thought their parents cared most about achievement. The study then posed the same question to parents, and a majority of parents said that what was most important to them is that their kids are caring.

Professor Weissbourd attributed the gap between what parents are espousing and what children are hearing to hidden messages. For example, dinner conversations may be focused on achievement topics, or children might observe parents maneuvering to make sure their children are on the best sports teams. He emphasized the importance of making sure that conversations focus not only on personal achievement, but also on the importance of responsibility toward something larger than themselves.

I found this aspect of Professor Weissbourd's talk so interesting that I have been challenging our Laurence parents to pose the question to their children. During our 6th Grade Thanksgiving Feast, one parent told me that she accepted this "Laurence challenge." She asked her daughter, "What do you think is most important to dad and me? That you achieve, that you're kind, or that you're happy?" The daughter responded that she believed her parents cared most that she was kind and happy.

I hope you'll take on this Laurence challenge and ask your kids what they think is most important to you!

I touched on these themes during my Back-to-School Night speech in late September. Many of you asked me for a copy this speech, so I thought this blog post was the perfect opportunity to share it with you. Please click here to read it any time.

I hope that you and your children are enjoying this school year's journey!

Summertime is Family Time

By Laurie Wolke

As another school year comes to a close, I have been reflecting on our school's "Keep Kind in Mind" character education theme. All year, our students have written in journals about what they are grateful for and kind acts they performed and received. They have also learned mindfulness techniques to help them handle stressful situations, remain calm when upset, and act with increased kindness towards classmates, friends, and loved ones.

I've heard from many of our parents that your children have been incorporating these concepts and words at home. Students are reminding their parents, "That's not 'keeping kind in mind,' Mom," or "This is how to 'keep kind in mind,' Dad." Our kids have proudly run up to me around campus, letting me know how they are teaching their parents to "Keep Kind in Mind."

It is wonderful to see these character lessons in practice and hear firsthand how students have applied these ideas throughout the year.

As we get ready for another summer of camps and vacations, I'm also thinking ahead for what's to come. In our world that's increasingly dominated by digital devices and technology, it is more important than ever to be deliberate about teaching our kids interpersonal communication and connection skills. The ability to interact positively and collaboratively with others and create meaningful relationships is key to ensuring the success of our kids in our modern world. We will be working on this in the fall, but you can get started this summer.

While your kids are home with you, try disconnecting a little, through device-free dinners and family activities. Summer vacation is a perfect time to read together, engage in discussion, take walks, spend time at the beach, and spend some quality, focused time together. I will be working on this too, and reminding myself to put my phone down!

Thank you for a wonderful year together. Wishing you and your family a relaxing, enjoyable summer! I hope to see many of you at camp this summer.